To be honest, as human beings, we are perfect at picking excuses to limit our capabilities and we have a wide range to select from. Simply because we don’t want to take responsibility we make an excuse to escape through it. When responsibilities are endless, our list of excuses also becomes endless.
These excuses are doing nothing but stopping you from living up to your full potential.
So, what really is an excuse?
An excuse is simply a way for us to defend ourselves, a false reason that you give to explain why you do something or why you do not do something, true, isn’t it?
So, basically, it is a false reason that you’re giving to yourself which is again going to harm you only.
Well, the list is too long however, let’s talk about a few types of excuses.
1. I cannot change…
If you find yourself making this excuse know that you’re not alone, everyone struggles with changing. Accept the fact that change is painful and it requires effort and it requires you to come out of your comfort zone, and the human brain is not designed to do what’s not comfortable. This calls for the basic plan, take small steps.
Soon, you will find yourself becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.
2. I’m afraid…
Simply put, the biggest risk you will take today is by not taking any risk. Man, if you don’t do what’s fearful, how you’re going to grow? How you’re going to gain those experiences and the knowledge to live the life you’ve always wanted to live?
See, fear of failure will always be there and you wouldn’t want to merely mask the pain with a painkiller. Don’t let the pain to persist, figure out a way to overcome your fear. And, seriously if you’re afraid of failure, click here and read about the ‘Importance of Failure in Life.’ Failure is not a step backward, it’s a step forward to live your life.
3. I don’t know how to…
Okay, I will start with a quote from Richard Branson, “If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!”
All in all, learning should never stop, life will keep teaching you in numerous ways, so why should you stop learning?
4. It’s not simple…
You have to be really passionate about what you want to do in life, because yes, it’s so hard, I’m absolutely not going to sugarcoat it. Only the outside of anything can look appealing, however, the inside world of any profession demands a lot, it requires the whole of you. Until and unless you’re willing to give everything you’ve got, you will not succeed at it. Just keep doing the things that will take you closer to the finish line every day and you will realize ‘it is that simple.’
5. I’m too young or too old…
Well, this can be hard at times when the role of the age comes into play, but it’s never too late to start and it’s never too early to start. People of all ages have achieved the impossible in this world all they had to do was to walk by faith, not just by sight.
You have to have faith in yourself whenever you make any bold decision, age can be a factor cannot deny that, but you cannot let your age define your reality of what you can achieve and what you cannot achieve. Think outside the box and be persistent with your leaning experience and you will surely make it.
The list is long for the type of excuses we often encounter and I will definitely be publishing more articles on the same, but for now, let’s move on to how to quit making these excuses.
First things first
Before learning how to give up making excuses, you need to admit that you are making them in the first place. Identify the consequences of the excuses that you’re making, they can be devastating, some people live in the endless loop of excuses, to be honest, they’re not even living, they’re just passing by just like any other creature without making an impact.
Questions to ask yourself:
- Why do I keep making these excuses?
- What are the long-term effects of my excuses?
- What is at stake?
These are just arbitrary questions that you can ask yourself which will surely give you an insight into why you keep making excuses and these are crucial to begin with. Once you understand that you keep making excuses because you don’t want to leave your comfort zone to achieve something bigger you will yourself start finding ways to end this endless loop of excuses.
Always learn something from your past.
I’m quite sure you have made excuses in the past and it surely must not have been a good experience to deal with, so did you learn anything from it? If not, recall it now and write down how you feel about it now.
If it isn’t your first time making excuses so why not use your past experiences to learn from? Use your memories but don’t let the memories use you, what I mean here is that don’t dwell on the mistakes of the past.
This is the best part, you need to take responsibility for your failures and mistakes. If you love to celebrate your achievements then start punishing yourself for your shortcomings. Put your failures on yourself, not on anyone else, learn from them and you will start seeing the bigger picture that no one else will ever take responsibility for your life but only you.
How badly you want to do something?
If you can answer this question, you will never make an excuse. Start by asking questions and keep asking questions until you overcome your urge to make an excuse. Learn the fact that your excuses are only stopping you from reaching your ultimate potential and an excuse has absolutely no real value in the face of success and your goals, so why to even make them in the first place.
Strengths vs Weaknesses
If you ever find yourself saying ‘It is too hard.’ Well, running a 50 km marathon is hard, so you don’t get to say anything is hard until and unless you’re running a marathon and this excuse is one of those things which is something you should never say to yourself.
Always focus on your strengths and if there is something which you want to learn, always start small and list your weaknesses to make sure that you will turn them into your strengths one day.
We always look at that glittering summit of that mountain, however, we overlook that tough climb. If you want to run 10 km, you will have to start with maybe even 400 m, if you want to read a book of 200 pages, you will have to start with page 1 and that is perfectly fine as long as you’re making progress, but not excuses.
There are many other things which you should never say to yourself, take a look at this video to know more.
Please, stop comparing yourself.
Don’t get into the ugly cycle of comparisons, if you want to compare yourself, compare with your 10 years past version. You will surely find that you’ve come a long and you will certainly not feel disheartened about yourself. Trying to live up to the expectations of other people will only make your life miserable.
Have a hero and a role model for yourself, again, that should be the 10 years future version of yourself, you will always be looking forward to yourself with a constant urge to trying to improve yourself and become the best version of yourself.
In the end…
The worst thing that you will ever have to deal with after an excuse is procrastination, so I would suggest you go and read this complete guide on ‘How you can overcome procrastination?’ And, also a ‘Quick 2-minute fix to overcome procrastination’ to help you on your journey to end this tendency of yours of making excuses.
No matter what the outcome, make the best of every opportunity and don’t get consumed in the process of making excuses that you lose the focus of your own journey.
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