What is the easiest way to live a life? Is it the conventional way? Go to college, get a career and live ever after happily. This is what our parents suggest, this is exactly what society expects us to do.
The easiest way to live a life is to ‘Follow the crowd’ and not having enough courage to walk out of that crowd.
If you want to set yourself apart from the rest of the sheep herd, give up mediocrity. You have to set some principles and some standards for yourself because it’s not those who do great things achieve great, it’s their little things that make them great.
I’m not saying your life will completely flip by 180 degrees if you’ll follow these pretty basic rules but you can start feeling a lot better about yourself and for what you do, you can finally start standing apart from the crowd, better at making decisions as well.
1. Stop the blame-game.
When people are lame, they love to blame.
I love this quote and it is true for most of the people around us. If you look closely, this is the way we have been living our lives so far, running away from our responsibilities, trying to blame for why we failed or messed up and pointing fingers when we lose.
It is easy to get caught in this blame-game, once you understand the fact that blaming is natural and we have acquired this art from the people around us and maybe even our elders as well, it is easy as well to give up.
The person you are blaming might be at fault but you’re no less than him/her, own the responsibility of the thing that went wrong and take a couple of deep breaths and let it go. If not the whole responsibility at least take the responsibility of your part and don’t make excuses for why it went wrong. Just say ‘sorry’ and make sure it won’t happen again.
2. Learning the right way is key.
It’s not as easy as it sounds because we’ve been taught to blame, right? Now, leaving behind that conventional way to blame and starting to take responsibility for your actions and its consequences as well.
There is no winning or losing, it’s all just experiences.
If you live with the mentality of a winner it will be a lot easier for you to take responsibilities because then you’ll be centered enough to not point fingers, it’s comparatively easier to attain this kind of an attitude because we get to make tons of choices every day and have plenty of time to practice taking responsibility for those choices, doing your homework instead of playing video games is a choice, own it.
Working out instead of watching TV is a choice you make for yourself, I know it may sound like a choice that is pretty much obvious; however, it is these choices that counts after 10 years. Focus on growth only.
I believe you’re a product of the choices you have made in the past, whether or not you find yourself responsible for them.
Take charge of your life today.
3. Accept reality.
Accept the fact that you suck at something(constructive criticism), you don’t know how to do the job right and you have to learn a lot.
Pretty hard there, right? That’s how life is, isn’t it?
I am a big fan of this line, it says everything that people don’t want to listen to. Are you ready to take on some harsh comments?
You can connect it a little bit to taking responsibility but to be able to accept the fact has a lot more to do in your progress at work or character-wise. Accepting the facts or reality can sum up everything, for example, if you mess up at some presentation, what do you look for? Do you look for some reasons to blame? I wasn’t given enough time to prepare this presentation? I had a rough morning? Maybe you had a rough morning, who cares? Believe me, no one.
Take the responsibility and say it in front of your group that you won’t mess up from the next time. Don’t let it be just your words, make sure you don’t mess up instead of spending an extra hour in front of the TV, put an extra hour in practice with your presentation.
If you’re looking for some ways to be more productive and change your life instead of following the conventional ways, I have more for you. Look up into my other blog ‘4 Simple Tips to be More Productive’. Click here.
To sum up this one, I just want to say give up pointing fingers, I love this one when you point finger at someone there are 4 fingers pointing back at you, isn’t that true? Take charge, get in full control, let no one be the dictator of your life but you, there is no giving up in this life unless you quit.